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Kidnapped for lunch

May 27th, 2006 at 01:54 am

Today I went out to lunch with my boss. It's not something I have any choice about -- she schedules monthly lunches on my Outlook calendar -- as she does with everyone else she supervises. Yet she doesn't pay. Is that unethical? We're not allowed to say no, only that we need to reschedule.

I didn't have a bad time, but I really couldn't afford lunch out. Ah well.

Our VP sent an email message out today telling us that there will be a 2% merit raise this year -- meaning some will get 1% and some will get 3%. I don't think that's enough to cover the rise in gas prices. Certainly not enough to get excited about, but I will take what I can get!

5 Responses to “Kidnapped for lunch”

  1. veronak Says:

    You said "Yet she doesn't pay. Is that unethical?" My answer is yes...that is so rude. When she sends you and email just note in a friend way that it's her treat, that is terrible why sould you have to always pay

    hope you get the raise as well

  2. Carolina Bound Says:

    I guess I'm afraid of offending her. Afraid of a backlash.

    The other odd thing is she never talks about work during these lunches. It makes we wonder if she's lonely, and if she's just trying to be one of the girls? But then she should just ask, not schedule it on our calendars.

    Thanks for the support!

  3. Thrifty Ray Says:

    As a past-life manager, I would tell you that it is unacceptable to expect employees to go to lunch with you and not pay for that lunch.

    I recommend letting her know that you are on a budget and that you would be more than willing to meet with her over coffee at work or during a 'brown bag' lunch...but that you are not able to go out to lunch.

    You are still willing to meet with her on your own time, but you no longer include a financial burden to do so.

    If she insists on lunch out, then the company or she should pay. In any case, this should have no work consequenses on you.

    Good luck!

  4. ~Dawn Says:

    That is most definately wrong. Either the company should pay or she should, otherwise she should eat lunch with you, however you eat it, even if it's brown bagging it.

  5. Carolina Bound Says:

    Thanks all. That's how I felt about it, glad to know others agree.

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