Well, being stuck at home does make it less likely that I will spend! I spent $3 on laundry yesterday, and that's it.
Christmas this year is turning into a problem. My local kids are going to Florida in order to visit some cousins they don't get to see often. I won't be part of that, as it's my ex's family and they are too toxic for me! My Oregon son will be in Oregon, and his wife and kids will fly up for the holiday (as they will still be living in Florida to sell the house.) Plus her parents will fly there. I was invited, when I asked about it, but there will be no room (DS will still be in temporary housing), and I can't afford it anyway.
My brother celebrates with his wife's family, and I don't want to be part of their crazy scene either! My sister -- well, I could drive out to NC, but frankly, the way she lives is so depressing I can't do it. (Hoarder, overspender, five untrained dogs in a townhouse, disabled husband -- you get the picture.)
Friends, of course, are all involved with their families. Sigh.
I am thinking of doing a DIY one-day retreat at home. I'm reading up on the concept, and I like the idea of it. Mainly, it's a day of intentional reflection and relaxation, doing kind things for yourself and turning off the outside world. I know that sounds odd since Christmas is a time of communion with others, but, to me, being on the fringes of someone else's celebration is depressing, not uplifting.
I'm kind of excited thinking about planning it!
I was tentatively planning a small trip with BFF after Christmas, but her brother is in a health crisis, and she can't commit to anything at this time. And, again, I really can't afford it right now, anyway.
On to today's plans -- I'm making a veggie scramble from leftovers. It's going to be very diverse -- potatoes, onions, peppers, green beans, carrots, squash and mushrooms! Plus, I'm throwing a little cheese in there. I've been chopping this morning, and at noon I'll saute it all in a little olive oil. Hope it's good!
And I'm going to make an inventory list for my freezer. I just have a small freezer on top of my fridge, but I do lose track of its contents. I'm going to make a list and post it on the door -- cross off things as I use them and add them as I put them in. I was inspired by Lucky Robin's freezer organization!
Also, if I feel energetic, I'll put up the Christmas tree. All the boxes are in my dining room and I'm tired of walking around them.
I got a call from my dealer that the manual is in. I will catch a bus on Monday to get it, probably make a library stop as well. I don't expect the car to be ready before Wednesday, and from past experience, it always takes longer than they say.
Christmas Plans
November 16th, 2019 at 03:53 pm
November 16th, 2019 at 05:20 pm 1573924849
I congratulate you for raising two children who do not feel ‘obligated’ to include you in their plans. You obviously have many many happy family times and that you give them space for other obligations is a wonderful gift.
I suggest including a walk in your retreat day plans, and also perhaps dedicate an hour or two to listening to music that you love.
November 17th, 2019 at 03:14 am 1573960489
Other ideas are attending a.Christmas church service (or Christmas Eve), and volunteering to serve that day at a soup kitchen.
November 17th, 2019 at 12:09 pm 1573992561
November 17th, 2019 at 01:00 pm 1573995632
November 17th, 2019 at 06:25 pm 1574015125
My mother was lamenting about holidays past that were so happy. My kids were little, my grandparents were alive, my brother wasnt' divorced and remarried. Now I only visit on Eve and host on Xmas Day. My invitation is a blanket to everyone and everyone. This year its buffet style and we are eating from Chinet. I suggested she think about the Season of Christmas and ALL THAT WE STILL DO AS A FAMILY. It is hard to disappoint everyone, but my happiness is no longer a negoatiable commodity. Do you celebrate beforehand or later at a convenient time for everyone?
Add I should add that my family includes: a biological father with the craziest of girlfriends (I mean this in the most serious of ways), a best friend with an opium-addicted toothless boyfriend, and some other loved ones who are odd). So if someone joins my party, I am also free of feeling that I have to explain who the players are. No ore excuses there either.
November 17th, 2019 at 07:39 pm 1574019580
November 17th, 2019 at 08:13 pm 1574021633
Holy day music and buying myself a special meal to be eaten on the day also helps.
November 20th, 2019 at 12:59 am 1574211570